If it’s all the bio father’s fault, and she can’t own up to anything that she did to screw up the relationship, then you can bet your ass she’d say the same about you to the next guy. The victim mindset, along with unhealthy doses of shaming and guilt-tripping, is the de-facto method-of-operation for single mothers.
Until she wants something from you that is. While it’s a cold truth that a woman’s kids will always be a higher priority than you, with single mothers, you’ll be even further down in her list of priorities. Because, deep down in their core, they’ll always know that you “Aren’t their father.” They’ll never, ever, ever respect you in the way that you want them to. You might genuinely love her kids “Like they’re your own.” But, ultimately, they will never ever be yours and your bloodline will not continue if you don’t already have kids. Listen to it.Ī man who’s chasing excellence and making his dent in the universe will have the options and self-respect to drop any woman who’s complicating his life.
If your spidey senses are tingling and your gut is telling you something, then there’s a reason why. And if you have kids with her, then see an attorney ASAP. If a woman ever becomes physically violent with you, then you must get the hell out of that relationship immediately. Neither the mother, nor the kids, will ever genuinely appreciate you for your sacrifices. Never date, LTR, or wife-up a single mother. It’s your responsibility to set, and always enforce, the boundaries that are meaningful to you. Rest assured, once you’ve experienced the pleasures of a woman who displays a genuine desire and attraction to you, it’ll be easy for you to spot anything less from that point on. Negotiated desire only ever leads to resentment, from both parties, down the road. Your highest ROI in life will always be that of being a man of vision, purpose, and who is always chasing excellence. Expect her to ramp up the shit tests to see if this new, more assertive you, is the real deal. If you’ve been pussy-whipped for years, then she’ll likely be surprised. Learn to say “NO.” It’s a complete sentence that doesn’t need any further explanation. If you notice her making rules, or setting conditions, on areas such as when she’ll have sex with you (for example: “If you ever want to have sex again, then…”), you now know that she definitely sees you as a beta and that the frame has shifted. This means that you must always be on your A-game when it comes to frame, Game, and leading the relationship (more so if you’re married or in an LTR). Women break rules for alphas and make them for betas.Īs unfair as it may be, the “Burden of Performance” is always on you. Women’s rules – How they break them or make them
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You can prevent this from happening by updating your belief system with healthy adaptations and then learning how to maximize your benefits while minimizing the risks. If you can’t learn to accept this way of life, then you run the very real risk of taking the “Black Pill” and becoming exceptionally jaded against all women and pursuing any type of relationship with them (whether that is spinning plates, non-exclusive LTRs, or otherwise). Men make up nearly all suicides (with many of them being because of failed past relationships – especially ones that involve his kids that he’s no longer “allowed” to see). For example, the classic “Women and children first” approach on sinking ships (or other disasters). Society often sees men as the disposable sex. Kindle | Hardcover | Audiobook The female primary social order